'mumma'

This Earth was the same..sun was the same..life was moving ahead when i took a break..
i was pretty unsure about the future..i was fearing the every next day..and then i realized someone was with me..totally good..'pari'..mumma..
She talked to me,listened to me,encouraged me,loved me..
she was there when i needed her the most..her cherubic presence always made my day..
Having the breakfast together,reading the newspaper..
Everytime i used to ask her to talk to me,to sit with me..and she would leave all the work just to listen to me..
She was always there to hug me..and make me feel relaxed,to allay my pains..she made me smile everytime i was sad..
She trusted me..gave me whatever i asked for..she made me realize that i am beautiful..she gave me those beautiful tips 'do this do that'..
She ate those 'shapeless chapatis' made by me..and always encouraged me to do things in a better way..she beared with my irritating behaviour,always staying cool and calm..she always made be believe that i should work hard to get whatever i want..
She was purely honest and sweet..she accepted me as i am..she accepted my life beyond family..
She oiled my hairs and combed them whenever i felt like lazy..
She always cared for my pimply face..and kept suggesting 'how can i takecare of my health'
She has a beautiful heart and a pure soul..
While looking after us..she never thought of herself..
This is not enough of the writing..i am true fan of hers..
Just her smile and i feel like being at the top of the world..She is simply the best..yes, the best..mumma..
I wish i could be as good as she is..wish i could do something for her too..
I'll make sure that she is happy..

WE CAN MAKE OUR LIFE EASIER WITH A LITTLE CHANGE IN OUR PERSPECTIVE :)

Everyone thinks of changing the world

but no one thinks of changing himself.

It is not that i am all positive or not practical enough but it is just that i feel it is good to havemore than one view to look at things. Think of a three dimensional cube,we all know how to draw it but the one who look at it can see it in more than one way. In the same way if we look at small things in life in a positive way we can avoid small tensions. It is always good to be flexible. This certainly makes your life easier.
Here i am writing no new thing but a better view to the most common things we hear around.
A few of opinions ihave formed with my own experiences and the others,people around me made me realize that we can look at it in this way too.

1. IT OFTEN HAPPENS PEOPLE PROMISE US TO MEET ON A PARTICULAR DAY AND THEY FAIL TO DO SO AND THE WORST THING IS,THEY DON'T EVEN INFORM US.
we feel betrayed and we stop trusting that person. If we are very sensitive we feel really bad and most of the time keep it in our heart.
BUT if he or she is a friend,we can always think it in this way..' may he had a strong reason..and he didn't even informed..some really important thing must be there and we'll clarify it when we talk next'

2. WE OFTEN FEEL ALL PEOPLE AROUND ARE SELFISH , PARICULARY WHEN REACH AT HIGHER LEVELS IN LIFE( higher studies or jobs).
BUT all people can never be bad...how can God leave such a nice person like you surronded ny all bad people. If you are good,it becomes obvious few others will be good too..

3. WHEN A GOOD PHASE OF LIFE GETS OVER(such as a college life). IT IS GOOD TO MISS THOSE DAYS BUT ALWAYS HOPE FOR THE BETTER ONES. DONT GET HOOKED UP TO THOSE DAYS.
BUT do not cry because it is over but smile because it happened.

4.WHEN PEOPLE PART FROM EACH OTHER,THEY GET AN EGO. THAT WHO CALLS FIRST.YOU MISS OTHERS BUT YOU ALWAYS KEEP WAITNIG FOR THEIR CALL FIRST AND IF THEY DON'Y,YOU FEEL BAD.
BUT there should not be any ego guys. If you want to call,don't hesitate. Call the person. He may have that too..but you can always correct YOURSELF atleast!

5.PEOPLE OFTEN FEEL LIFE IS FULL OF PAINS(if not you..but i am sure you must have heard it many times from others)
BUT life is all about facing challenges not pains actually! Love life.

6.DO NOT BE FRIENDS WITH HIM/HER. YOU CANT TRUST HIM/HER.
BUT trust is always required if you get into any relation. You would not get hurt even if you put that trust willingly. Either trust him/her or never give name to that realtion( specially friends).
You can not say,he is a friend but i cant trust him.!

7.WHEN PEOPLE GET DEPRESSED AND SOUND SAD MOST OF THE TIMES,WE OFTEN FEEL 'YE TO AISA HI HAI..PARESHAN AATMA..NO USE TALKING TO HIM'
BUT if he is a friend..you can say that ways. you must know the reasond for his actions. Yoy cant leaving him saying 'ye to aisa hi hai'. Think after imagining yourself at his place and then you'll get better reasons. Instead of blaming him,you'll understand him and that makes feel good.

8.PEOPLE OFTEN FEEL LONELY.
BUT when you feel alone,you get an opportunity to know yourself, you get to spend time with yourself which is so difficult in the busy life.
MOREOVER you can never be alone..your close ones are always there. And when you feel their absence..come in light..look at your shadow..it is always their( avoid to stay in dark,when you feel low).

9. IT IS NOT ALWAYS THAT ONE THING IS RIGHT AND THE OTHER IS WRONG.
BUT the two or more than two things can be right too..we talk what we have experienced,others might have got a different experience.

hope these things could be of some help..you can share your personal experiences too..when you changed your perspective and started looking at things with a view better than others..

A PESSIMIST COMPLAINS ABOUT THE WIND;

AN OPTIMIST EXPECTS IT TO CHANGE;

THE REALIST ADJUSTS THE SAILS.

BREAKING NEWS

When i heard the news about the blasts at the crowdy Sarojini market in 2005( it was my birthday, and i was busy in my own celebrations),i took it as 'just another breaking news'.
Probably i was not mature enough to feel the pain of those who suffered. The very next day..i heard "we are strong enough and it wouldn't bring any change in the life and spirit oof the city" and this statement in the news channels actually made me feel good..( i do not know why..may be because i felt proud to be a delhiite,strong and full of life..!!)
And then the blasts in other major cities ..Ahmedabad,Bangalore,Gujarat and then 2008..DELHI again..( i wrote it in capital letters because being a capital..the city deserves this atleast.)..in the CP(also known as the heart of the city). This news certainly left us blank..not only i,but everyone was so worried( anyone could be here..you,your relatives..anyone..the most common place for a hangout). We just prayed prayed and prayed..we called every known person..
THEY planted a bomb even in the central park..i mean how could they..here people come to enjoy peace..crowd is young..here most couples come to spend time together..many of them come here even without informing their families..what about them..blasts in the capital in the most crowdy places..AND THESE LOOSERS ACTUALLY FEEL PROUD OF IT AND TAKE THE RESPONSIBILTY THE VERY NEXT DAY..I MEAN WHY..!!??
People are already tensed in their lives.They already have enough of problems..natural calamities,diseases,accidents..(killing for revenge or something).We already have a lot many ways to die and now these BOMB BLASTS..from nowhere you get killed or loose a body part or get some mental affect.
Though city shows"we dont get affected through all this"..This may be true,but what about them who suffer actually..
When i thought THESE LOOSERS will take a break..i heard another BREAKING NEWS.."BLAST IN MEHARAULI"..I mean WHAT!!?? They just came on their bike,left a packet and ran..SUCH AN OPEN ACT OF CRIME and the little boy who touched that packet..we all know what happened to him..
Sometime before also these things were happnening,but now they occur on a daily basis. Either a bomb is discovered and diffused safely or people die for no reason.

TO CONVINCE A SMOKER, NOT TO SMOKE

TO CONVINCE A DRINKER, NOT TO DRINK

TO CONVINCE A NON-VEGETARIAN TO TURN VEGETARIAN

AND THE WORST..

TO CONVINCE A BOMBER NOT TO BLAST..

They have their own reasons to argue..and continue..

Few things have become impossible or life taking tasks..I AM HATING IT.

poor THEY who had an arrange marriage..(dowry based!!)

The families meet ,

THEY are made to greet ,

THEY are asked to smile ,

stay fake for a while ,

to impress him or her,

gamble with eachother.

THEY are made to talk ,

or go for a short walk..

In worst cases, they can just sit and see ,

predict and wait for whats going to be..

THEY often talk little ,

and interrupted in middle.

The main issue arises..

the Dowry(an EVIL) thing sizes..

"what will you give

if the deal is fixed?"

The answer they get ,

ask for an extra VAT ;

something like car or furniture

or a bike and a television.

And the meeting gets over

and yes THEY still don't know each other.

They all get back to home,relax and think

from both the sides a survey begins..

"Are the families good enough"

"Is the guy earning well"

and the girl," is she pretty enough and a literate"

afterall who'll look after the kids..!

and the week gets over..

They get in touch again after thinking over

Decision is made

next month,the engagement is set;

the main issue comes again,"thoda len den ki baat karlen?"

and THOSE poor two

still wondering with whom they are getting married to..

the marriage date comes..and finally the marriage is done.

No time THEY got for bonding and understanding;

and above it the kids and their handling..!

THEY fight, THEY adjust, THEY live and laugh..

everything occurs BUT where is the love and understanding?

THEY just fullfill their duties pending..

THEIR poor kids see it all and think

why the hell their parents married..

Everyone stays happy and satisfied

EXCEPT the poor THEY who had an arrange marriage..

" PRATISHTHA , PARAMPARA , ZIDD AUR SAMMAN

LE LETA HAI EK PARIWAR KI JAAN"

A FEW THINGS I LEARNED FROM MY LIFE..

What my life says..
•1.Never get dependent on anyone.
•2.Learn to say ‘NO’
•3.Never make anyone dependent on you.
•4.Never let your parents down , family stays with you forever.
•5.Don’t share everything with everyone.
•6.Try not to show your weaknesses to others and don’t sound so depressing to everyone.
•7.Trust others , as its needed when you enter in any relationship.
•8.Kabhi kabhi bhagwan per bhi chodna padta hai.
•9.Trust God , when no is around he is there.
•10.Never compromise till you are sure that you wont regret later.
•11.Believe that good days always return.
•12.Stay focused on your goal.
•13.Most of the times your attitude represents your personality , not you clothes.
•14.Learn to say ‘THANKS ‘ and ‘SORRY’.
•15.Respect your teachers , no matter what others do.
•16.Alwayz try to be there to help others but pay equal importance to your self.
•17.Keep your expectations as low as possible.
•18.Avoid wasting time.
•19.Have faith and confidence in yourself.
•20.Try to love and laugh with your self , so that you never feel lonely.
•21.When needed share problems with friends.
•22.Stay honest as much as possible , since its easy to remember truths rather than lies.
•23.Try to think positive as much as you can ., and don’t forget your good times ,This is how life goes.
•24.Never shout or fight in front of small kids.
•25.Though the world is said to be cruel , love people , they will turn good.
•26.Enjoy as much as you can , time never returns.
•27.Devide your life as personal and professional ,keep both apart.
•28.Never stop yourself for doing anything for anyone , until you are given a reason for it.

some relations which do not effect us..but certainly they exist..an example..

My school days are over..i have completed my graduation..and i am still a student..A lot of things changed in my life..people around me..teachers..and alot more..what has not changed is..my source of commutation.!! NO,it's not a cab or bus..but i usually take rikshaw..and a lot of time i use the phrase 'meri adhi zindagi to rikshe per hi kat gayi'.
Earlier i always felt good avoiding crowdy buses and taking riksha..specially in monsoon with lovely winds blowing..and i just loved itbut then..daily..taking rikhshaw all the time became irritaing!
Anyway..my point here is not to describe my super journey on these three wheelers but how in this world we form some bonds unknowingly and probably most of us remain unaware of the strange bonding which is created as most of the time it stays ineffective..
We often forget their faces but they don't.
i am talking about rikshaws and rikshawala just to give an example..Following are a few remarks wich really surprised me and made me write this post...read on..
" Aap mere rikshe mein 6 mahine baad bethi ho"
"Apka school khatm hogaya"
"Pahle to aap isime jati thi"
"Aap kabhi is tarf se aati hain,kabhi us taraf se"
" idhar jaogi ya dusri taraf" and when i said idhar.."aap to udharse jati thi,subeh 8 baje"
I once asked one of them.."bhaiya chaloge?" he didn't reply.just smiled..and suddenly i realised..ye to wahi hai..and in his smile probaly he conveyed.."ye bhi koi puchne ki baat hai"
The funniest and a little embarassing thing happend when i asked rikshewale the way to recomform and get a shortcut to my home..he said "nahi bas yahi rasta hai..hum pahuncha denge"(he might have thought i was really new to the place)..though it wasn't far..but i was really tired to walk onfoot..and finally i reached where i ws heading to..and he said to others around.."bechari bhatak rahi thi,wo to hamne pahuncha diya!!" and i walked from there at my best speed..
i wrote this just to make a point..that though we have our own world..sometimes people around us make those bondings..which surely do not effect us...and are negligible..but the point is they exist..

To be yourself in a world which is constantly trying to make you somebody else is the biggest thing..be good.. :)

Hmm..life is going too fast..and probably i am going too slow..for me relations are much more important than anything else..and i believe...we should make new relations only when we are able to handle old ones..otherwise problems arise..and it becomes difficult to fight troubles when human emotions are involved..Different people different things..everything tries to change one’s behaviour..and as I believe..to be yourself in a world which is constantly trying to make you somebody else is the biggest thing..people often change..i have seen them..who have turned strict, stiff ,who have forgot that once they had a great sense of humour..that they were full of life..but thanks to troubles around them..which remains constant and thus successful..They fight the troubles..fight themselves to overcome the problems..but finally they surrender.. its difficult to solve all the problems..and come out winning..and the easier way is to escape the troubles..but ..difficulties are not just ours..but our near and dear ones are involved..and that stops us to run away..(plus we don’t have enough money to escape!!)..

In my case..something similar happened..and it kept on repeating its self..(as if God thought i love it..!)..i am changing too..turning negative..fighting life..at one time I laugh like anything..as if I just needed a chance to get started with my never stopping smile..and other times I feel totally low.. and believe me..these extremes are killing me..As every other person even I want to live happily..fight things but at the end come out as a winner..but I fight fight and fight…get all my energy back..talk to different people..who can help me..suddenly..i feel as if I am on track again..only till the same problem rise again…and I am back on zero..even people with whom I share things get bored of listening the same things again and again..You know I love life..because its beautiful..i love the people around me..i love life..because it gives me different challenges and difficult situations..but when I get the same situation again again..i get bored of life..i feel..”NOT AGAIN”..(abhi to sab theek hua tha..)..

Huh..! I don’t want to change myself..i don’t want to get sick of the problem and get moulded according to it..i am a human not a clay with a different identity and uniqueness…oh god..help me not change..into a tough.strict..someone who have forgotten whats life is all about..

Want to be a winner in life..:)

SOMETIMES PEOPLE DO WONDERS..

Whenever i am totally lost with myself and my pain,there is always someone or something to help me out,to give me an unexpected support and relief..that someone can be my closest pal,friends,my family..and if no one is around,God has to be there!It becomes very easy in life when we have problems but we also have someone to share things..but the most difficult time as when we feel lonely,neglecte and start looking for help..we find no one!Sometimes i ask myself how can i be alone when i have all the good people in my life but then if i observe a little closely,i find everyone is busy..if i can share it with him,why cant he share it with me..if i am asking for help,why cant someone give me a response i expect..if i find him as the only support.why he is unaware of it..and these qustions stop me to call anyone and i am left all alone..then i read my diary..all the positive things i wrote,i see all the msgs my friends sent..i start feeling better..though everyone cant be with us all the time..but their memories are always there with us..their words makes us feel loved..YES SOMETIMES PEOPLE DO WONDERS..a friend is not a word of formality and not everyone can be our friend..but its a special feeling..family and friends..an ultimate support..let them be busy..but trust me they are always there..come on..God cant leave us alone..there is always a gennie..

train and mah covered face..

Dis is d 5th dy of mah chickenpox..

N m goin bk 2 home..

its a hott summer dy n m in train..

Magadh Express whch m sure is d slowest train evr made on dis planet..

M coverd wd a light cloth bt unfortunately its thick enuf 2 resist ma oxygen..!

Ys m feelin d heat..

every male arnd me s curious 2knw,y my face is coverd..

as if m hidin diamonds.

its a 4hr jrny..n as i sed..ds slowest train wud probably tk ma liftime..

Ppl takin rubbish..thos strnge train discussions..

bt yeah ds sounds btr dan feel d silence..

A cute child s playin here..n makin an irritatin noise..

he s succesful,my momjz lukd at him..!

ds may b d 1st litle child continuously sayin 'pappa' n ignrin his lovin mom..

Ds cloth s irritatin me again..

N guess wat..des job less ppl r wonderin wt m typin in my cell phone..!!

N d next station is ghaziabd..only IF no new stations a created by ds EXPRESSO..!

M waitn 2 entr ghaziabad..atlst i wud b able 2 msg mah frnz n complain abt ds SUPER DUPER SWIFT....huh.....