poor THEY who had an arrange marriage..(dowry based!!)

The families meet ,

THEY are made to greet ,

THEY are asked to smile ,

stay fake for a while ,

to impress him or her,

gamble with eachother.

THEY are made to talk ,

or go for a short walk..

In worst cases, they can just sit and see ,

predict and wait for whats going to be..

THEY often talk little ,

and interrupted in middle.

The main issue arises..

the Dowry(an EVIL) thing sizes..

"what will you give

if the deal is fixed?"

The answer they get ,

ask for an extra VAT ;

something like car or furniture

or a bike and a television.

And the meeting gets over

and yes THEY still don't know each other.

They all get back to home,relax and think

from both the sides a survey begins..

"Are the families good enough"

"Is the guy earning well"

and the girl," is she pretty enough and a literate"

afterall who'll look after the kids..!

and the week gets over..

They get in touch again after thinking over

Decision is made

next month,the engagement is set;

the main issue comes again,"thoda len den ki baat karlen?"

and THOSE poor two

still wondering with whom they are getting married to..

the marriage date comes..and finally the marriage is done.

No time THEY got for bonding and understanding;

and above it the kids and their handling..!

THEY fight, THEY adjust, THEY live and laugh..

everything occurs BUT where is the love and understanding?

THEY just fullfill their duties pending..

THEIR poor kids see it all and think

why the hell their parents married..

Everyone stays happy and satisfied

EXCEPT the poor THEY who had an arrange marriage..

" PRATISHTHA , PARAMPARA , ZIDD AUR SAMMAN

LE LETA HAI EK PARIWAR KI JAAN"

A FEW THINGS I LEARNED FROM MY LIFE..

What my life says..
•1.Never get dependent on anyone.
•2.Learn to say ‘NO’
•3.Never make anyone dependent on you.
•4.Never let your parents down , family stays with you forever.
•5.Don’t share everything with everyone.
•6.Try not to show your weaknesses to others and don’t sound so depressing to everyone.
•7.Trust others , as its needed when you enter in any relationship.
•8.Kabhi kabhi bhagwan per bhi chodna padta hai.
•9.Trust God , when no is around he is there.
•10.Never compromise till you are sure that you wont regret later.
•11.Believe that good days always return.
•12.Stay focused on your goal.
•13.Most of the times your attitude represents your personality , not you clothes.
•14.Learn to say ‘THANKS ‘ and ‘SORRY’.
•15.Respect your teachers , no matter what others do.
•16.Alwayz try to be there to help others but pay equal importance to your self.
•17.Keep your expectations as low as possible.
•18.Avoid wasting time.
•19.Have faith and confidence in yourself.
•20.Try to love and laugh with your self , so that you never feel lonely.
•21.When needed share problems with friends.
•22.Stay honest as much as possible , since its easy to remember truths rather than lies.
•23.Try to think positive as much as you can ., and don’t forget your good times ,This is how life goes.
•24.Never shout or fight in front of small kids.
•25.Though the world is said to be cruel , love people , they will turn good.
•26.Enjoy as much as you can , time never returns.
•27.Devide your life as personal and professional ,keep both apart.
•28.Never stop yourself for doing anything for anyone , until you are given a reason for it.

some relations which do not effect us..but certainly they exist..an example..

My school days are over..i have completed my graduation..and i am still a student..A lot of things changed in my life..people around me..teachers..and alot more..what has not changed is..my source of commutation.!! NO,it's not a cab or bus..but i usually take rikshaw..and a lot of time i use the phrase 'meri adhi zindagi to rikshe per hi kat gayi'.
Earlier i always felt good avoiding crowdy buses and taking riksha..specially in monsoon with lovely winds blowing..and i just loved itbut then..daily..taking rikhshaw all the time became irritaing!
Anyway..my point here is not to describe my super journey on these three wheelers but how in this world we form some bonds unknowingly and probably most of us remain unaware of the strange bonding which is created as most of the time it stays ineffective..
We often forget their faces but they don't.
i am talking about rikshaws and rikshawala just to give an example..Following are a few remarks wich really surprised me and made me write this post...read on..
" Aap mere rikshe mein 6 mahine baad bethi ho"
"Apka school khatm hogaya"
"Pahle to aap isime jati thi"
"Aap kabhi is tarf se aati hain,kabhi us taraf se"
" idhar jaogi ya dusri taraf" and when i said idhar.."aap to udharse jati thi,subeh 8 baje"
I once asked one of them.."bhaiya chaloge?" he didn't reply.just smiled..and suddenly i realised..ye to wahi hai..and in his smile probaly he conveyed.."ye bhi koi puchne ki baat hai"
The funniest and a little embarassing thing happend when i asked rikshewale the way to recomform and get a shortcut to my home..he said "nahi bas yahi rasta hai..hum pahuncha denge"(he might have thought i was really new to the place)..though it wasn't far..but i was really tired to walk onfoot..and finally i reached where i ws heading to..and he said to others around.."bechari bhatak rahi thi,wo to hamne pahuncha diya!!" and i walked from there at my best speed..
i wrote this just to make a point..that though we have our own world..sometimes people around us make those bondings..which surely do not effect us...and are negligible..but the point is they exist..