TAKEN FOR GRANTED – A NORMAL SELFISH THING!

I met so many people in life...a few became friends..a few stayed for long and a few just went away..

It is often said that in a marriage, only a first few years are interesting and then it becomes something to be taken for granted. I feel, it is true for every relationship we enter into. Even the friendship.. though the attachment stays for long but the patience to handle the tantrums, to understand an impulsive wish and to bear the bad mood soon declines.

It happens with all of us. When we enter into it, we are given special treatment. We often get, what we demand for, the food of our choice, the place we wish to visit etc..

The fact, that girls enjoy this even more, cannot be denied. And we do the same.

If we like someone or say a new entrant, we tend to give him/her additional importance, particularly in the beginning but then its all the same. It is very effortless to notice and compare the attention we were given in the start of it and after few days! The resulting feel is bad. Though this happens over and over again in our life.. but still every time we want to believe that the things would not change.

The whole thing suddenly reminds me of a marketing concept of skimming prices!! The concept says, raise the prices on the launch of a product and make the maximum profit out of it and then reduce it later when the expected profit is extracted..! The product is shown its value.. and focus shifts on a new launch..

How different are we..

Though this post is not about DNA but a little understanding of these fundas would make the things simpler.

DNA, is a nucleic acid that contains the genetic instructions used in the development and functioning of all known living organisms. The main role of DNA molecules is the long-term storage of information, the Genetic information.

The DNA double helix is stabilized by hydrogen bonds between the bases attached to the two strands. The four bases found in DNA are adenine (abbreviated A), cytosine (C), guanine (G) and thymine (T).

Each type of base on one strand forms a bond with just one type of base on the other strand. This is called complementary base pairing. Here, purines form hydrogen bonds to pyrimidines, with A bonding only to T, and C bonding only to G.

And here i begin, The current research says that 99.9% of the DNA in all the humans is similar all over the earth and the difference is only for 0.1%. (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/1416706/DNA-survey-finds-all-humans-are-99.9pc-the-same.html)

The whole thing makes me feel a little amused about the fact that not only every human is different in the physical looks and dimensions but also everyone has got significant qualities and attributes that clearly distinguishes one from the other. I have this habit of observing people’s behaviour and their reactions and then predict the things in future (not always the correct ones..!) I have observed so many differences existing between the people, and it seems that they are highly different!

See for yourself, how many you found similar for that matter!! That tiny 0.1% creates uncountable different personalities (obviously, the environmental factors also play the role). When we enter in an organization, its highly noticeable that people, a little similar in behaviour, tends to form groups but of course they are also too diverse in nature and behaviour.

This is about few types i met..

1. A girl who always wanted to be in limelight even if it meant taking credit for others work and publicizing it in her own way!

2. A guy who just couldn’t say NO to an answer even if it meant expressing wrong answer (and of course diluting his credibility in future)

3. A guy who just couldn’t be made understood that sometimes its damn necessary to express things!

4. A girl who always wanted to gain sympathy for every trivial issue happening in her world (some people just can’t stop grinning over the small issues!)

5. A guy who always believed in judging people at one go (obviously wrong..Most of the time.!)

6. A guy who always wanted to earn respect despite being disrespectful to others! (we all can predict the consequences!)

7. A girl always looking out for perfection in others instead of working it on herself!

8. A guy too stubborn to achieve smallest things (not even smallest) in the world..!

9. A guy too governed by the group thing that he loses himself again and again!

10. A guy too jealous of the other guys!

And many others..! (SORRY i am unable to recall some GOOD EXCLUSIVITY..though I am refreshing memory to add more examples..) People are crazy around, they wear masks. It becomes highly difficult to find the real them.

If that simple pairing between A-T and C-T can bring out the real big dissimilarities then..Hats off to science and its wonders!! Leave others, but i couldn't find anyone even 1 percent similar to me..!

And i guess same will be the case with YOU! Lines such as "wow..! we all are just the same and so we does enjoy together" but inside we know..we are UNIQUE and EXCEPTIONALLY DIFFERENT! :)

With this post, I also take this opportunity to add a message:

“Every year you take the resolution to change yourself, BUT this year, take the resolution to be yourself...”

And i met her again today..

I met her first when she was in 5th standard..completely happy and satisfied with her little friends and those kidu games..her lovely teachers and loving family..

I met her again when she changed her school,went to a different city and missed her old friends badly.. She adjusted,made new friends and kept this hope that she'll meet those golden friends again (she recently got in touch with one.. :) ) Now she was in a better place,a nice school..

and

I met her again.. she started loving the new city and the different people around..and her home where lived her caring mom,waiting for her..her dad,ever loving and the dearu brother.. The years passed,now she was a big girl..

and I met her again.. This was the time when she realised that people take her as sweet, friendly,loving,always helping and ofcourse the good student..! she was in 10th then..

Great marks..new wings and a NEW SHE.. A little more mature,a little more lively..a little more smart and a little more understanding.. This was the time which brought twist in her life..a little more friends,friends forever..different flavour of love..Her life was a little more different now..a little more fun..a little less studies..a little more diversion..

School life never returns..now she was in college..and I met her again.. she was different..sometimes totally dumb,sometimes totally smart..sometimes overactive and sometimes superlazy..! She added a new friend-MOBILE!

Now she started experiencing two extremes of mood. Also the stupid feelings entered her mind..Jealousy,Possessiveness,unneccessary worries and the feeling of guilt! But this was the total fun time for her..too many bunks and too many different places to visit..never ending walks and totally tires she.. She faced responsibilities and challenges.

A few more friends..friends forever.. She was a graduate now..And i met her again. She was unclear about her goals in life..her future and she was a little scared of the coming years. With guidance,support,her own will..she is in a proffessional course now(simply..a college again..pg level!!)

It was diificult for her in initial days..but now when she has completed her one year..

I MET HER AGAIN TODAY.. She now knows alot of people around. She is living her life in a better way;with a little less restrictions and a little more freedom. She likes lot of people around.

She is more confident and a little more practical. Her goals are more clear now. She is a little more positive,a little more forgiving,a little more resposible But a little more busy.. BUT YES,she is stll experiencing those extreme mood swings..

I will meet her again..and find her status..the time will be tough ahead.. lets see,if she makes it the way she wants... :)

These days...

Its been long since i have written any post..lots of things are happening continuously and most of them can be called "happening"!!.

The major ones include the end of my MBA 1st year turning me into a half MBA..the scary viva which caused my skin to swell..!

the training..and a little hope for PPO..!!

The first year in JBS was good,with the first trimester tough to handle and the next two super light and comfortable..the decent CGPA and wonderful people around..those uncontrollable laughs and those encouraging lectures..sleepy classes and attendence worries.. those continuous complains about administration and never implemented movie plans..!! The shipra..the fest..the farewell..the friends..

And the super scary viva at the year end which was nothing more than the test of patience due long waits as if teachers got the chance for ragging each one of us legally..(though they always have it..!!) but somehow eachone of us managed it without much hassels..and that RUN for the movie to GIP(a reason to wear different outfits otherthan our UNIFORM!!) after this terrible viva session..

CONFIRMATION for TRAINING and the joining from next day excited me..(specially after seeing ROCKET SINGH a day before)

I was expecting no special attention from our bosses..(bosses..sounds..huhh..!!) but daily reporting and sudden calls "kahan ho" made me feel good and not neglected..!!

The SO Caring "they" untill i realized that it is just the way to get your work done..and i had now entered the world of proffesionalism..where everyone expects too much from you as an MBA..Its a totally practical world where people work as machines with a little emotions(for those who are new..!!)

-I realized nothing is more important than your given Target. -There is no value of time specially when you are trainee. -10 mins are never less than an hour. -If you are not able to perform,you are thretened to be thrown(happened with me..!!) this made me realize..what the pressure is and i entered depressing mode almost for a week..!! and my smile almost faded..its still not in place..!!

-I realized its hard to get people working for you untill you have the authority. -"INSAAN KI ZUBAAN HI SAB KUCH HOTI HAI" IS Useless here..where words have no value..tomorrow means tomorrow that never comes.

-Resoning and explanations are of no importance,only the result matters.

-It becomes really really difficult to trust the people around..every word you say can become an issue so just takecare..and speak with no names involved.

-I have learnt,how to meet and talk to managers(CLIENTS!!).

-I have improved my convincing skills..(BUT FOR THIS FIRST YOU NEED TO CONVINCE YOURSELF).

-I have learnt,if you are from a big company,you are respected.(atleast before you..!)

-I have learnt,people hardly says NO..instead they ignore you..miss you calls..or just go out of town for an undefined period (hahh)!!

-I have learnt..carrying CONFIDENCE is the foremost thing.

-I have learnt sometimes,you start lying not out of choice but by chance (may the fear of the one above you)..BUT THIS CAN BE AVOIDED..if you realize it at the right time.

-I have learnt its no more a difficult thing to travel in buses for 4-5 hours to a new place.

-I have learnt,if you are in the marketing and in field..WEAR SHOES..to run..to keep yourself safe..and walk fast..COVER YOUR FACE..otherwise sun will burn you and people will think,you were always the same..!!

-I have learnt, sometimes you need to go with strangers and put your trust..!!BUT JUST TAKE CARE..!!

I have learnt,it doesnt take a birthday to make you a year older but the stress you feel inside..

NOTHING CAN HARM YOU IF YOU ARE HONEST TO YOURSELF..TO OTHERS..THE FEAR VANISHES.. :))

1. 
   
   marketing is not about lying and selling..its about maintaining relationships and first believing in your own peroduct..!!


2. 
   
   its not about making false promises but conveying an approximation,if not exact,atleast close.


3. 
   
   its not about making others wait for so long..but informing them the right time.


4. 
   
   its not about cutting the calls or ignoring them but guts to say no but in a right way.


5. 
   
   its about meeing new people and leaving a positive image.


6. 
   
   its about connecting with the world.

TRAINING WAS A WONDERFUL EXPERINCE..it gave me a feel of an employee!! and I have started loving my college more..where i am protected, safe with lots of friends around me.... NEED A BIG TIME BREAK........eeeeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyyyyyyaaaaaaaaaaaaa.....

(feel like shouting hard..!!)

dasvidaniya..farewell to our senior batch..

okay... this one is "on order".. so i dedicate it to the same person who asked me to write it.. mr.vaibhav jain.. my senior(..not in age..!!).

since i entered jbs..i made so many good friends.. but i always expected more interaction with seniors.. but somehow..it didnt happen... we never initiated..and they never initiated too.. but then came the time when..2-3 seniors started interacting with us(this is throygh my perspective..others might have interacted with other juniors).. and that was really good.. i would like to mention their names.. vaibhav sir,arunesh sir..and mukul sir.. seniors..as the word says..gives us some kind of security..and we surely need their advise.. T nP meetings.. gave me a sense of involvement in college activities..

16th march..2010..we gave the farewell..the experience was great.. the week was badly hectic.. and when the farewell happened..it gave us a sense of achievement because only few among us knew about the hardwork we did for this..the finance..the momento..the documentry..lots of applications..events..the risk of attendence..n on the top of that..the criticism and the taunts

(the best part..it makes me feel important :) vishakh,ribhu,eva,divya,smriti,shraddha,richa,sumant,sakshi,akansha,mayur..dil mein ho jazba toh sab kuch hai asaan.. i loved the "understanding" this team shared.. the support we gave to each other.. :) :) and thanks to all my batchmates( specially those who supported :P) and now senior batch is going..

vaibhav sir.. you gave us a great support.. the best thing in you is..you are approchable.. we dont have to think much before talking to you because you always give positive response.. your presence really make people comfortable around you.. and your honesty and quality to take initiatives really encourage me..

arunesh sir..the way you speak..your confidence.. its great.. i always thought that you are a serious guy..but interacting with you more made me realise..you are funny too..

mukul sir.. jaijinendra.. you have interacted too with lot of juniors..specially through net..and its really good chatting with you.. thanks to other seniors too.. for being there..attending the farewell.. hope you all do well in life.. :)

WE FEEL IT..RIGHT...??

Feelings...something that can only be felt but can not be expressed completely through words.

Each moment of life adds something to our experience and thus adds to our emotions and feelings..

I,obviously can not put my feelings here and make you feel them but i am writing the instances which makes us FEEL..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you have something great to share and miss that happy dance with a friend..

when you are alone and lost in sad thoughts and you imagine your friend hugging you..

when your friend says,he is going abroad for few years..you are happy but want to go along..because you fear distance..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you are awake at night and all your friends have slept..and you really want to talk..

when you are appreaciated in public and you cant stop smiling..!

when your friend is sad and distant,and you really want to prove that you are with him..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you meet your old group and time runs so fast..

when you really search for some encouragement and motivation..and you dont get one..

when you really expect your loved one to trust you..and it becomes difficult..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you dont want to hear that small word "bye" and continue forever..

when you badly want to hug your friend sitting next to you,but your mind asks to restrict you without a logic!

when you friends touch your parent's feet and treat them as their parents..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you desire for importance and you are ignored..

when no one answers and your friend does it correctly making you proud..

when a stranger quickly becomes your friend..and you cant resist that friendship..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when someone questions your self respect and you still want to forgive and continue as before..

when someone desperately asks for your opinion,and when you give one..rejects it!

when someone unexpectedly give you so much of value and importance..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when lovedeone lies to you because you are not that understanding..

when you lie to your lovedone..because you think.he is not understanding..

when your friend stops talking to you and go away without saying a word..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you dont want to cry in front of someone but you unable to control your tears..

when your crying eyes are taken for granted..

when you miss someone badly..and you get his/her call...and you start believing in coincidences..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when your friend is ready to move the world just to make you smile and at the end you realise,he himself was sad and you didnt notice..

when you give someone blank call just to listen to his/her voice..

when you sit with your loved one and enjoy his company while still keeping quiet..

HOW DOES IT FELL..

when you get compliments for your specific features such as eyes,smile etc..

when you play with a little kid and forget your stress..

when your closed one is in pain..and you cant do anything..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when you really want to compliment someone but resist it just to avoid wrong signals..

when you find your childhood friend after long long years..

when someone betrays you and you find hundreds of reasons for not believing this..

HOW DOES IT FEEL..

when someone takes your genuine reasons as fake accuses..

when someone gifts you exactly what you wanted..

when someone keeps on blaming you and taunt you and you feel helpless..

AND YOUR FAMILY..when it gives you never ending unlimited support and trusts you blindly..

those feelings of jealousy and the feeling of falling in love..

and the ultimate feeling of fear of loosing someone...

THE FEELINGS MAY NEVER END...but this post needs to...

MY MEMORIES OF 2009! HAPPY NEW YEAR..

Its 31st..9pm.. I had a good day..had a nice time with family. I got finished up with exams yesterday only,so i am relaxed too :) I have got a week off from college..its good to be home after exmas!! I am sitting with myself(main aur meri tanhayi ;) ),waiting for some friend's call. Lost in my thoughts.. The year is ending..2009.. Probably,i wont forget this year. Though every year brings something different but this brought some big changes..in me..for me..for the people close to me. PEOPLE SAY that there is no use remembering the past..BUT WHY NOT..when i have the time PLUS i can TEST MY MEMORY!! January started with competitions,XAT,FMS..(the only hopes left after CAT!) CAT result and that wait for the calls.. Then the big break after exams;no more quant,english or di! BUT the interview questions and GD topics, detailed news and articles, magazines and net..ooohh,i even started making notes of the news!!! Sometimes i still read those..THE SATYAM SCANDLE and THE CHANDRAYAN..shame and the pride. Then,went to Gwalior to my aunt's place,had fun with cousin :). Mum also got a week free to enjoy with her sister.. MELA n SHOPPING, SCOOTY n WINDS, MOVIE n FOOD.. PLUS the ADMISSION TENSION! ALREADY got rejections from many colleges..wanted to make it this year.. BUT.. I was back to home..found one call letter lying half through the door,as if it welcomed me.. i was more than happy and so much excited(though i wasnt able to convert that call but..that was a special moment).. more preparation was GDs n interview.. i was even preparing by phone..discussing things with friend(it was fun!) Then,get together with friends,their continuous support and encouragement..talks and chats.. AND THEN the difficult decision of shifting to ghaziabad(though we didnt think and planned before making that decision),but probabaly it was the best possible option left.. APRIL..AGRA TRIP(first time without teachers or parents!) with my closest friends(next time it would be with all my dearest friends! :) and my friend..first time some friend stayed at my place..lovly.. did lot of talks that day and night.. IT WAS AN AWESOME TRIP. and i got to know some new opinions anout myself..huh..! AFTER COMING BACK,faced two GDs and interviews.. THAT was a nice experience too, i was better than expected ;) Got selected in one..but there were more than two months for the college to start.. so thought of doing some job for a month or so.. CONSULTANCY,my first job interview.. i went just to have an experience,was least bothered for my selection..so that was fun too..AND the best part,my friend was there with me :) GOT SELECTED, 1 month of a job and just me and bro at home(mum had to shift :) making the breakfast,and daily having heavy dinner of naan and daal makhani,chole kulche and cheese (my bro was showing extra care and affection!!hehe..cute) MY FIRST SALARY and a few lies at work place..daily bus journey and handling the irritating crowd.. bought gifts for family and friends ( not for all..had limited amount!!) NOW,i was at ghaziabad,new home.. my cousin came for a few days,so didnt have any time to get bored..! then THE COLLEGE..SUMMER CLASSES,new people and interactions.. I realized, how common my face was(it reminded of some or the other person to many!) AND FINALLY COLLEGE STARTED..hectic schedule and new amazing friends,busy me..exams and results..tensions and FUN! A close friend's accident..God..! My birthday..a tough day, i dont know,what went wrong but it was beautiful too.. A few days ago,my sister came and we shared a lot of talks and secrets( which were piling up since 2 years).. AND NOW I AM DONE WITH TWO TRIMESTERS..watched "Three idiots"esterday(what an extra amazing or say ultimate way to end an year),I LOVED THIS MOVIE LIKE ANYTHING(i am not paid to promote it :( but watch it ASAP ) THERE WERE TOO MANY OTHER THINGS TOO..BUT THE BIG ONEs i mentioned... THIS YEAR TAUGHT ME ALOT,LOVED IT..HOPING THAT THERE ARE MORE ADVENTURES TO COME IN 2010.. I''L ENJOY THE EXCITING LIFE AHEAD.. Wishing you all a very Happy and adventurous new year.. :) have fun!!